yo.

i just realized something.

things that usually push people away aren't what you HAVE done, it's what you HAVEN'T done.

for example, someone can cheat on someone else. now, it's not the act of cheating that drives the other person away, it's the lack of respect, loyalty and fidelity.

another example: someone's not "feelin' the love" anymore. like maroon 5 says in their song, misery, "it's not what i didn't feel, it's what i didn't show." so...it's not that the love isn't there, it's just the love isn't being felt

and it's great that i realize this now, because...i dunno, the phrase "i'm sorry for what i've done" has always pissed me off (except i LOVES the song "what i've done" by linkin park) and now i know! because it ISN'T what you do, it's what you DON'T do. so next time a relationship's falling apart, don't focus on what's being "done," focus on what's not there anymore and bring it back (ok, i just got "do you remember" by jay sean stuck in my head now xD)