no effort

you know what i just realized? i've been saying "if you're not gonna put any effort in to this relationship [not THAT kind of relationship, any kind :D], then it's not worth it" a lot lately...and then i realized that...relationships really take no effort at all.

trippy, ain't it?

i know there's all those relationship help books out there, and there are probably a lot of marriage counselors out there that are going to like die if they ever read what i just said. but...if you look at it, it's true, relationships don't take no effort at all.

now, you may not agree or get along or even like someone you're in a relationship with all the time. and no, it's not the "boyfriend/girlfriend" kind of relationship only, it's any relationship you have to another person. your mother, father, brother, sister, child, friend, classmate, coworker, random stranger on the street. but if you really care about that person, you're willing to compromise almost unconsciously so that the both of you stay on those terms. and it's mutual, so it's not just you, that's the beauty of it.

i mean like...there are people out there who like to TALK about EVERYTHING. and GOD it's pretty annoying sometimes, they always gotta SAY how they FEEL and how they FEEL when someone does SOMETHING. yeah, that's great and all, you're getting it out there with no facade; but honestly, you can talk all you want but if someone isn't listening, you're just wasting your breath and both of your times.

okok, now i'm not saying that in a relationship you don't talk AT ALL. you talk. a lot too. but you don't ALWAYS have to talk about EVERYTHING you feel and how you feel about EVERYTHING. because...well, that will only string a bunch of really boring conversations (and if you're into that, you need some more excitement in your life. go sky diving or something).

i guess what i'm ultimately trying to say is...if there's chemistry there, you would rarely need a catalyst. yeah, you might need it to spark a reaction or to get something going, but it's usually minimal. and if it seems like you're putting in so much effort and time into making something come out of this, and there isn't anything happening, then maybe it's just not meant to happen. and you should go off and try to see if it'll hit off great somewhere else. (and that's right, i just did a chemistry analogy >=D)